Last week we published Dr. Adams' list. Here is mine. What would you add? Minimize your counselee's problem. It was important enough to him to seek counsel. Tell your counselee that you understand what he is going through. You probably don't. Tell him Christ does. Use psychological labels … [Read more...] about When Counseling, Also Don’t . . .
Counsel women alone Counsel drunks; wait till they sober up Counsel someone being counseled by another Counsel without access to a phone, desk, writing materials, etc. Counsel people who set down conditions Counsel when a person refuses to do his homework Counsel by telephone … [Read more...] about When Counseling, Don’t . . .
Note: The following essay is an excerpt from Dr. Adams’ as of yet unpublished manuscript entitled Adams’ Answers…Objections from Critics. Let me say right up front that I don’t mind fair and impartial criticism; I try to learn from it. But one thing I am somewhat sensitive about is this: there are … [Read more...] about “Adams, You Talk About Nothing Else But Sin”
I received the following question from one of our students today. This is a condensed paraphrase: We have covered so much information that I am afraid I will not recall what I need to when I encounter specific counseling situations. How do I remember where to begin? The question brought back … [Read more...] about What to Do When You Are Stumped
Commiserating doesn't help! "What's this all about?" It's about entering into a person's problems in such a way that all you do is agonize and "feel his pain." Some think that this is the way to help. Take it for real---it isn't. All you do---supposing your feelings are genuine---is indicate that … [Read more...] about Commiserating